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About the Date...

Over the past few days, I've received several messages inquiring how my date went. It went well, and there will be another. :) Overall, he left a favorable impression and I will tell you why.

(1) He was polite and respectful to the waiter in the restaurant, saying "hello", "please" and "thank you." Not barking orders or commands, or treating the young server as a "slave" during the meal. This is a good sign of character in my view, and a non-elitist attitude, which is essential for me. We must treat all humans with respect, no matter the gender, social class, ethnicity, etc., until they give us a reason not to. For me, character and manners are of extreme importance, so I watch closely the behaviors and overall demeanor of a man during a first date, particularly how he treats others. As we know, most men are well-behaved toward their date, esp. at the first meeting. :)

(2) He opened the car door for me. Yes, I liked it. It's the sign of a gentleman and good upbringing. Plus, it's very, very rare for any man to do it in the USA. Over time, this would grow boring or even annoying because I would feel helpless if a man reached for my door every single time we went somewhere. However, in the beginning, it's a nice gesture.

(3) He asked A LOT of questions about me. In my experience, a lot of men are egomaniacs, with no foundation or achievements to support their inflated sense of self. They begin a lot of sentences with the word "I", spouting off a long list of things which are immaterial to me in the dating/love equation (their homes, cars, how much money they make). During this date, we talked mostly about EXPERIENCES not THINGS.

(4) He was relaxed and easy to talk to, with a lot of shared interests and passions. So, the conversation went smoothly and was never dull. He never once reached for his iPhone at the table, an amazing feat, for either sex! Of course, we all crave an attractive partner, but looks don't go very far in the long term. You must be able to relate to a person on many levels, not only sexually, if you're going to spend a lot of time with them or be in a committed relationship.

(5) Most important! He followed up the next day with a phone call, not a text or email. I refuse to be in a "virtual" relationship, where me and my partner are communicating mostly via text or Facebook messages. I still value the art of human conversation, and it's amazing how some men can be so charming and interesting in emails, yet in person have absolutely no social skills or charisma. I'm not speaking about general nervousness, which most people have during a first date, but the inability to maintain eye contact or be comfortable in one's own skin.

And, yes, he paid for the meal and I let him, without hesitation. So, you can see, I am in fact quite a traditional woman when it comes to relationships, not a raging feminist as some have accused. :)) There's no reason for excitement or relationship hopes, it was just a first date and it takes many, many encounters and an investment of time to truly understand a person and all their attributes and flaws...each of us has both! The main thing is to meet an interesting person, even if nothing develops romantically.

What do you notice most about a person on a first date, or encounter?

Comments

grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 05:45 pm (UTC)
you are absolutely right!

...but Brazilian bikini is must! )))))
peacetraveler22
May. 20th, 2015 05:50 pm (UTC)
Even when you're not dating, or in a relationship, you go through this waxing torture??
grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 05:52 pm (UTC)
for a feeling of confidence!


Edited at 2015-05-20 05:55 pm (UTC)
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grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 05:58 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
OMG !!!


type оn YouTube:

Sabrina All of Me (Boy Oh Boy). 1988

single charting at #25 in the UK, #12 in Italy and Switzerland, #15 in France, #16 in Germany, and #90 in the Netherlands. Written and produced by Stock/Aitken/Waterman. From the album 'Super Sabrina'
peacetraveler22
May. 20th, 2015 05:59 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
After you edited your comment, I could then view the video. So, it's all good!
peacetraveler22
May. 20th, 2015 05:57 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
80's glam, the best! :))
grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 05:59 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
yes and a lot of fun!
qi_tronic
May. 20th, 2015 06:04 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
Oh, Sabrina :)

I remember when she had a concert in Moscow I went there with huge binoculars.


"
Another famous performance was in 1989 at the Olympic Stadium in Moscow, where fifty-thousand people gathered over three days to enjoy Sabrina's show and music.
"
en. wikipedia. org/wiki/Sabrina_Salerno
peacetraveler22
May. 20th, 2015 06:05 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
I never heard of her until just now! :))
qi_tronic
May. 20th, 2015 06:18 pm (UTC)
Re: for a feeling of confidence!
She's from a bunch of 80's pop stars from Germany and Italy Americans never heard about :)
But in Russia (Soviet Union) they were big.

First there was Abba then Boney M, then an Italian romantic wave circa 1983, then overly sweet gay-looking Modern Talking from Germany, CC Catch, Sandra, and so on.

Nostalgic things.

Al Bano & Romina Power "Felicita" clip in St.Peter

www. youtube. com/watch?v=1Y4-jqN9_Ps
grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 06:14 pm (UTC)
Yes, modern laser hair removal is virtually painless
peacetraveler22
May. 20th, 2015 06:15 pm (UTC)
How long does it last?
grand_damme
May. 20th, 2015 06:16 pm (UTC)
well it individually, the full course lasts for a year

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