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Surviving Without Sex

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For a long time, I've wanted to write about this topic and explain why some women become celibate during certain periods in their life. Sometimes this is a conscious choice, and other times it happens unexpectedly as a defensive measure, out of fear of intimacy or being hurt when a relationship sours and ends. I will share my own experience in a separate post, but I don't think most of my readers, who are male, will even remotely understand the psychology behind such a decision. So, I ask a quick question. What is the longest period of time you've gone without sex?

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berngardovka
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:45 pm (UTC)
hmmm maybe 2 years^ but for there was a year-gap
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:51 pm (UTC)
Okay, thank you. :) I know some Russians still find it taboo to openly talk about such issues, but it's research for my post. :)
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don_domanova
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:46 pm (UTC)
Two and a half months in the Intensive Care Unit being a patient. After a while and when you almost surely survived being naked all the time in front of the female nurse staff becomes rather... how should I put it?... well, quite embarassing.

Edited at 2015-09-09 05:46 pm (UTC)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:50 pm (UTC)
2 1/2 months! This is not very long. Are you male or female? Or transgender? :)) I can't tell from your insect avatar. :)
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bloger_d
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:53 pm (UTC)
29
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:55 pm (UTC)
29 years? You lost your virginity at 29?
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I was in Finland in July and found out - montrealex - Sep. 9th, 2015 06:50 pm (UTC) - Expand
Anna Tairova
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:54 pm (UTC)
1,5 years at my youth after first love
And a year later.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 05:55 pm (UTC)
First love...ah, I still remember mine. He just got married. :)
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have not become friends with vibrators - montrealex - Sep. 9th, 2015 06:46 pm (UTC) - Expand
don_oles
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:14 pm (UTC)
eternity
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:15 pm (UTC)
You're celibate?
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olgadusoleil
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:14 pm (UTC)
About 3-4 months (female)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:14 pm (UTC)
This is not very long. For me, it was years.
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kolldun
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:21 pm (UTC)
However long it was - it wasn't because i wished so, but because of not being able to get laid :(
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:42 pm (UTC)
It seems to me that no matter the country, people are very promiscuous now. The Internet is to thank for it, where accessibility to dating and hook-up sites is so easy. I'm sure you have "Tinder" or similar apps/sites there in Russia. Or, the gay version "Grindr."
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kovaliv
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:23 pm (UTC)
1year 4 months and 12 days :(

peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:43 pm (UTC)
Your memory is very good, to recall the exact number of days. :)
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e_g_o_r_i_u_s
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:30 pm (UTC)
Never counted punctually but I believe about 2.5 years. And a couple of less extensive spells before and after that period.

Just do not need much of it :)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:43 pm (UTC)
This is an unusual mentality for a male.
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cecille_abril
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:45 pm (UTC)
about 2 years
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:48 pm (UTC)
The answers are very interesting, but not surprising. For men, a few months seems like an eternity yet several females have gone without for 1 or more years. :)
pogona_delirium
Sep. 9th, 2015 06:56 pm (UTC)
Three and a half years to exclude one short hookup...
I was in a long distance relationship and after it broke up it was more a circumstance rather than a choice to celibate.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:01 pm (UTC)
The men to which I've been most attracted in recent years are not geographically close. It's a pity, but I think it's too difficult to be in a long-distance relationship for extended periods of time. Seeing someone on the computer screen or iPhone will never be the same as having them physically present, at least for me.
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notabler
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:03 pm (UTC)
14 years, easy
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:04 pm (UTC)
Well, we are older and wiser. :) Most females commenting are only in their 20's.
madmit
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:09 pm (UTC)
3 month, it was a first love and we was splitted by different cities. So, only virtual sex for that period of time )
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:12 pm (UTC)
You didn't worry someone could make a video of your naughty virtual sex and spread it over the Internet? My friend recently told me that hackers have found a way to get into people's laptop camera, and watch all the action. Since that time, I have a piece of tape over the small hole on my laptop where the camera is located. I'm frequently running around my room naked, with the laptop screen up. I can't imagine the horror or creepy feeling if I discovered some stranger was watching all this. :)
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yarowind
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:09 pm (UTC)
19 years:)
bloger_d
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:11 pm (UTC)
wussy
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kisitir
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:19 pm (UTC)
couple of times, each lasted for about a year and a half. and that was quite a productive time! that means that i didn't have a boyfried and could devote all my time only to myself. i've learned a lot of new stuff a traveled to places where my men never wanted to go with me.
i guess, that's what Freud called "sublimation".
peacetraveler22
Sep. 9th, 2015 07:33 pm (UTC)
Yes, I agree with you! :)) I feel exactly the same. It's sad that more women don't take time out for themselves. Many are too scared to be alone for long periods of time, but it's liberating to a certain extent. I understand this is a very Western female view, but I think you know what I mean. :)
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