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Surviving Without Sex

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For a long time, I've wanted to write about this topic and explain why some women become celibate during certain periods in their life. Sometimes this is a conscious choice, and other times it happens unexpectedly as a defensive measure, out of fear of intimacy or being hurt when a relationship sours and ends. I will share my own experience in a separate post, but I don't think most of my readers, who are male, will even remotely understand the psychology behind such a decision. So, I ask a quick question. What is the longest period of time you've gone without sex?

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Михаил Кель
Sep. 17th, 2015 01:21 pm (UTC)
More than 2,5 years I don`t have sex. I can`t find sexual partner in this Eastern Europe society, in this dictatorship country. Sometimes I want to commit suicide because of this awfull situation

Edited at 2015-09-17 01:25 pm (UTC)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 17th, 2015 02:23 pm (UTC)
In which country are you living? Lack of sex is no reason for suicide. Why don't you just use prostitutes if the situation is so desperate?
Михаил Кель
Sep. 17th, 2015 03:32 pm (UTC)
In Belarus, where there are huge problems with freedom of speech and political rights. Prostitution in my opinion is very discussive question. It is prohibited, but exists in this country. Using this service means to break the law. And there is question if this is morale to use this "service" (if this can be called "service"). And also problem is not only in situation that I don`t have sex. I don`t have opportunity to speak with women in for example cafe - so many stereotypes, they often say that I am not interesting for them because I am interested in politics and I am childfree. I don`t want to lie to women, many lie to get sex in this society offering love forever - I don`t want to do this, I want to be honest in relationship with women
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sergdorv
Sep. 18th, 2015 10:48 pm (UTC)
Хорошо вам бабам живется
golemming
Sep. 20th, 2015 11:04 am (UTC)
oh, damn... long, long time. around 6 years. It was somewhat chaotic time, and then BAMF! I got 6 more candles on my birthday cake. :(

Why? Well, for one i was bisy and poor. I dropped out from university and got work, because i needed to support my family (my mother, who was single almost all my life, and brother by 10 years younger). I was on goverment budget education (in other words - free), and lost it. My single most serious... not mistake, but problem in life. I still have no uni diploma, luckily i am quite smart, so i can learn to do almost anything fast :) Holy pony, you would not believe how much that skill helped me in life :)

But i digress. So, here i was, poor young man - and with zero expirience with ladies. Most my peers have got that in school years, but i guess i was pretty late bloomer. So my "awakening" come knockin' when i was getting room in university hostel. And there she was, with deep blue hairs...

...Hell, i lost myself again! :) Ok, i can do it!



I can be quite charming (^_^) when i talk with woman i know. It's first impression is a step where i flounder more often than not. Significantly more, i might add. You know... thats not important in context of your question :) How i even got here?..

Bottom line - i did not even think about women around that time. And it was not so difficult as many believe. Sure, sometimes it was pretty lonely, not having a close person to share with. But... not all that bad.

PS. There was one good thing from that. Like 60% of my married friends got divorced around these 6 years. And almost all girls left with a baby. As a child of single mother i promised myself that i would never do that to my child. And when i look at that ruined couples... I see bunch of broken dreams. Theirs and their kids.

PPS. On a lighter note - is words like hell or damn curses? Or is it like russian "черт побери"? :)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 21st, 2015 02:52 pm (UTC)
"Hell" and "damn" - yes, they are curse words, but not very offensive ones. For instance, "fuck" or "shit" are more hardcore. :) Well, I understand you. I've been single for a long time, and I rarely think about men because I have an active, busy life, with a lot of hobbies. I'm not constantly on the look-out for a man, but if one comes along, it would be great! :) Btw, is it much harder for a poor guy in Russia to get women?
golemming
Sep. 21st, 2015 03:10 pm (UTC)
Yeah, that's how i feel. But sometimes melancholy are creeping in :) That, and we do not get any younger. Although i really hope science will make average lifespam of like 100 years a standart while i'm alive ^_^

well, i think not that hard. Or more specifically it depends on what kind of girl he look for. Younger girls are usually "easy" and irresponsible, mature women - obliviously are looking for stable future. But i have seen how adult women take rough, poor, bud good guy and make something great from him. I guess sometimes right motivation is all what needed :)

In my case - i think i should be able to make gifts, go to reustarant with girl, etc. So i set some standarts to myself. For example - if bloke want slim and curvy girl, he himself should be at least not fat. That kind of things :)

But same question to you - Is it hard to do in US?
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soupchik
Sep. 24th, 2015 12:45 am (UTC)
about 1,5 years. But I have my arms (or hands). Do you understand me? :))
peacetraveler22
Sep. 24th, 2015 12:46 am (UTC)
Yes, I understand. I have my "toys." :))
nithoruk
Nov. 13th, 2015 04:26 am (UTC)

Maybe a year or two. M. No jerking-off even. It was a unique experience.

peacetraveler22
Nov. 13th, 2015 02:27 pm (UTC)
It's amazing, esp. for a man! I would not survive without my vibrator! :)
(Anonymous)
Nov. 13th, 2015 03:24 pm (UTC)
I was totally surprised with that. My expectations didn't come true - I thought I would be in hell but I just had a day or two with some sort of discomfort. Since then I'd been doing pretty well 'til the end of the story.
nithoruk
Nov. 13th, 2015 03:29 pm (UTC)
))) And what about you? Beg a pardon, but this thread is pretty long to read it through even if you already answered the similar question.
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sinner_shirly
Dec. 22nd, 2015 03:04 pm (UTC)
Until the age of 22 and then probably 1 or 2 month=)
peacetraveler22
Dec. 22nd, 2015 03:36 pm (UTC)
I also lost my virginity late - in my early 20's. :)
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