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Size plays an integral role in the process of many things, and it's the foundation for many human insecurities. This becomes apparent if you ever work with or know a male who suffers from the very real psychological disorder known as "Napoleon complex" or "short man syndrome." I work with such a man in my law firm, who suffers with some severe insecurities due to his lack of stature. His aggressive personality is a complete nightmare!

Then, we have the stereotypical worries about penis size. These too are real, as I once dated a man on the small side and this issue came up frequently - from HIM, not me. But in Russia, Ukraine and other former Soviet bloc countries, it seems men must worry about the size of something else - the bouquet! :)) I've recently noticed a trend on Instagram where Russian women post photos of themselves with huge bouquets of flowers. I even read an article about the phenomenon entitled "
Russian Women with Shitloads of Flowers." :)  I think today is the most popular day for flowers in your region of the world, so it seems like a good time to discuss the topic.

1. I love flowers, and would rather have a bouquet any day rather than jewelry or more lavish, expensive items. I remember noticing so many small flower shops during my first visit to Kyiv, and later when I traveled through Russia and other former USSR countries. It gave me the impression that men in this part of the world give flowers much more often than American men, and this is good! Yet my female friends from Russia told me this is a false assumption, at least with the younger generations which are less attached to tradition.
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2. Even my lovely blogging colleague inamora recently posted a photo of a big bouquet her husband gave her "just because." So many flowers! I didn't count the number of roses, but it's several dozen.

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3. One more example. :)

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4. I think a bouquet like this one is most common in the USA. They can be ordered online and delivered, or delivery can be arranged from a local flower shop. It's more expensive to order online (around $50 - $60), and the quality isn't as good. So, I always use local flower shops when I order flowers for family members and friends. The size is much larger, quality better, and the cost less (around $35 - $40 for midsize bouquet).


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5. This is a photo of the last bouquet I received. Very bright and beautiful, but not grandiose in size.

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6. I think flowers are much less rooted in dating and romantic traditions in the USA, and we don't have as many rules. I remember my Ukrainian friend explained to me that you should never give an even number of flowers to females, as this is only done at times of death or condolence. This is the reason almost all foreign dating sites for men looking for Ukrainian or Russian brides will have a special tutorial on flower customs in this part of the world. For instance, look here on the Brides of Ukraine site. A whole section on dating and flower customs. Or this guide for Western men on "How to Impress a Russian Woman." The last section talks about flowers.

For me personally, size does not matter. I can vividly recall the most sweet and romantic gesture of the man I lived with for several years. It was a Wednesday morning, I entered my car to go to work, and on the passenger seat there was a card and a single red rose. The card had a funny depiction that said "I love you, and want to have your babies." I liked it because it was so unexpected, random and thoughtful. I think it's always better to receive such romantic gifts and surprises out of the blue, rather than on holidays which were created by consumerism and greedy retailers.

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So men, do you feel pressure to deliver huge bouquets? Or, are these articles and online information simply wrong and written for sensationalist purposes? I can't believe Russian women are so demanding. :) Would you be shamed if you brought a single red rose to a date, rather than a big bouquet?

Ladies - I congratulate you all on 8 March! I can't really understand the impact or importance of this holiday from afar, as it plays no role in the life of most American women, and the day is not a holiday, or even widely recognized. Good women, like good men, must always be celebrated and appreciated! :)


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genka8
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:13 pm (UTC)
No
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:14 pm (UTC)
But you are now in the U.S. :) I think American females are typically less demanding.
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notabler
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:24 pm (UTC)
I prefer japanese style: in 1 flower is the all the beauty of all. I dislike this vanity fair in Russia
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:26 pm (UTC)
These huge bouquets seems almost absurd to me. I don't understand the purpose honestly? Does it mean a man loves you more if he buys 500 roses rather than a dozen? :) My favorite flowers are peonies, but they're very fragile and don't last long.
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peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:27 pm (UTC)
Of course, expectations for men vary greatly depending on the woman. What other types of gifts do you give women? I hope you're feeling better emotionally since your break-up.
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perycalypsis
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:46 pm (UTC)
Girls, I wish today to coincide everything: wine, flowers, the day and you!
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в избу стучался пьяный леший
цветы сжимая и коньяк
вселив надежду в баб обычных //not demanding
и в яг //more discriminating
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:53 pm (UTC)
Re: Girls, I wish today to coincide everything: wine, flowers, the day and you!
What does this phrase mean "и в яг?"
elinelisky
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:49 pm (UTC)
I thinks, if this is a big bouquet, it need look so
or better be smaller and look like a some of this


And thank you, and Happy 8 March you also, Shannon!
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 01:51 pm (UTC)
The first photos looks like an entire forest, not a bouquet. :)
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aavenger
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:01 pm (UTC)
Well, I do not live in the US, but next time should anyone complain about need for flowers, I will present the most huge bouquet any woman can imagine :))) (dark sardonic laughter)
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 04:09 pm (UTC)
I note your sardonic laughter. :) However, isn't this why most men give such huge bouquets? It's like a public proclamation that my dick is bigger than your dick. :)) A show of pride or to one up some other potential male suitor who is pursing the same woman. You don't give flowers to your mom or girlfriend on this day?
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andrey_kaminsky
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:02 pm (UTC)
Очередное пророчество, у меня их много
The development of society leads to the destruction of the family. Not so long ago the mandatory things were maintaining contact with distant relatives, marital fidelity, joint budget, they all are disappearing now. Family dies, something else comes in its place.
When the level of development of capitalism in Russia will reach the level of development in the US, all this fuss with bouquets disappears.
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:49 pm (UTC)
Re: Очередное пророчество, у меня их много
This prophecy will not be fulfilled in my lifetime, and the fuss over bouquets will remain.
sectopod
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:10 pm (UTC)
I know many girls, who say: "I don't like flowers". All of thems were happy to got flowers :) I think, some of them really dislike flowers but also dislike to be without gift.

I think 3 flowers is normal usually, 5 for more impressive if we talk about roses or similar-size.
Big bouquet of flowers (or bucket with flowers) is smth for impress countryside girls.

Edited at 2016-03-08 02:10 pm (UTC)
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:26 pm (UTC)
Why countryside girls? :)) They are more difficult to impress?
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xuswan
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:13 pm (UTC)
Large bouquet with many flowers is expensive. And russian woman want to get expensive presents as sign of love. The number of flowers doesn't have matter especialy for me. I want to have it as a fact. My man usually presented me 5-7 flowers on holidays. And it make me usually happy. This year I'm happy twice, that he give me the perfect present - masseur for neck.
andrey_kaminsky
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:22 pm (UTC)
Марк Твен утверждал следующее:
Two men and one gift are better than one man and two gifts :)

A woman should have the two men - one for the body and the other for the soul :)
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kremlin_curant
Mar. 8th, 2016 02:31 pm (UTC)
The one of the favorite Russian song of the 20-th century is called "the million of the scarlet roses"
This is about the painter who sold his house and bought instead the million of scarlet roses for the female actor for whom he felt in love.
The author of the song doesn't explain what was the end of the drama. Nobody knows the actor appreciated the feat and took him to live in her apartment or else she rejected him and he wound up as a homeless man.
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 04:11 pm (UTC)
Someone has sent met his video before, but he informed me the man was rejected by the woman, despite his grand gesture. Poor guy.
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theodorexxx
Mar. 8th, 2016 03:17 pm (UTC)
Bouquet was the last word I thought about when I saw the title

Edited at 2016-03-08 03:18 pm (UTC)
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 03:21 pm (UTC)
The cover photo should have made the topic of the post clear. :)
sasha_severny
Mar. 8th, 2016 03:52 pm (UTC)
"So men, do you feel pressure to deliver huge bouquets? Or, are these articles and online information simply wrong and written for sensationalist purposes?"

I think cunning marketing managers cynically make up an advertising propaganda to increase their sales. Russian capitalism is not the kindest one. As far as I remember from living in the USSR nobody actually cared about bouquet sizes. Flowers were expensive then and men didn't give them to women on a regular basis, only in special occasions like holidays, birthdays, weddings, etc. In my opinion March 8 is a weird holiday and a bad practice to cherish women just once a year. Why not every day? My favorite holiday is Christmas. Some people get puzzled even in Canada asking why I am listening to Christmas chorals in the middle of the summer. Because I want Christmas to be every day.
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 04:14 pm (UTC)
Christmas is also my favorite holiday! I don't understand how this holiday, which was traditionally a celebration of women's rights, has transitioned in modern day customs to a sort of Valentine's Day in Russia and other ex-USSR countries. Strange progression.
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mybmd
Mar. 8th, 2016 05:34 pm (UTC)
Cannot stand flowers...
Have 4 cats and and flowers in the house mean a huge pain in my arse!
Fcuk the flowers.
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 05:39 pm (UTC)
I do not like cats! So, I say fu*k the cats and keep the flowers. :))
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petr_rpc
Mar. 8th, 2016 06:17 pm (UTC)
День феминизма имени Клары Цеткин и абортов. Кого бы с ним поздравить?
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 06:22 pm (UTC)
Yes, equality of female rights deserves celebration. :) Or, you wish for women to be treated as second class citizens in your country?
romanklimenko
Mar. 8th, 2016 06:27 pm (UTC)
My wife appreciates arrangements or ikebana. So it's important for me not to screw up choosing a wrong color/flower combination/arrangement :) Size doesn't matter.
peacetraveler22
Mar. 8th, 2016 06:29 pm (UTC)
I had to google "ikebana". Never heard of it before, but really nice. :)
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