Today I discovered the blogger inamora, a young girl writing about her affair with a much older married man. I don't judge anyone and my position on sex is clear. Consenting adults can fuck whom they choose - a married person or even someone of the same gender. In the end we answer for own choices in life, not the choices of others. As I read through her posts, I realized we have completely different views on men and relationships. What a woman wants from a man in her early 20's is often very different than her late 30's. But she got me thinking about sex, relationships and power.
To my knowledge, none of my ex-boyfriends cheated on me. There haven't been that many - I've loved two men my entire life (both when I was in my 20's) and seriously dated only a few others. I suppose it's possible one of them cheated and I had no clue? If I became aware of the situation I'm not sure I'd be able to forgive and move forward. I said in this post that forgiveness is a great human trait, but not one that I always possess. Maybe I would accept it and move on. After all, rational thinking and reason are sometimes thrown out the window when you're madly in love or lust.( Collapse )