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Look to the left of the photo. There you'll see a young boy named Dmitry, adopted from an orphanage in the Russian Far East before the ban on American adoptions went into place. I've met him on several occasions, as his adoptive parents are family acquaintances. He had a severe eye condition at birth, left untreated in the orphanage. Dmitry now calls Pennsylvania home, with his three American sisters and brother. He's had several corrective eye surgeries since his arrival in the U.S. as a toddler, and his sight prognosis is good. It was amazing to hear tales about his adoption, the small village in which he lived, and the struggle to get him to the U.S. I hope I can convince the family to share photos and more personal details about the process, but they're hesitant to do so for fear of negative comments and hateful backlash on this forum.

I've never understood the foundation for this adoption ban? I believe it stemmed from the death of a Russian boy adopted by Americans but it seems to me that, in reality, children were used as a chess piece in the game of geopolitical warfare. Shameful for any country to behave in such a manner. I recently read that the adoption ban is even more widespread now, prohibiting single people (gay or straight) who live in any country where gay marriage is legal from adopting Russian children. So, this means I'm banned from adopting a Russian child for two reasons - being American and being a single female.

If there's an evil American soul who wishes to adopt a child solely for the purpose of abusing them, they don't have to go all the way to Russia to achieve this goal. They can apply to be a Foster Care parent in the U.S., receive funds from the State, and take a child into their home for malicious purposes. This tragically happens. Russian politicians really believe someone with such vile intentions will invest the money and time to travel all the way to Russia for a victim when, sadly, there are many children who can easily be taken in as a foster child here on American soil? In general, this adoption ban makes me sick and furious. Children - I believe they're the most innocent and precious beings on the planet. To prevent one from even having the chance of a better life is unforgivable, particularly when it's done for political purposes.

Are you interested in knowing more about Dmitry's story? If so, I'll try to write the full background story, including photos from the orphanage, if his parents will grant me permission.

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Пьер Безухоff
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:35 pm (UTC)
Google translate^

Shannon, you would like to adopt a child from Russia ???
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:41 pm (UTC)
No, I don't want children at this point in my life. However, my goals and life may change in the future such that there's time or a desire for a child. If so, I always considered adoption an option. I'm getting too old to carry a child on my own, only a few more years where I could realistically birth a child. I'm 41 now.
kremlin_curant
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:51 pm (UTC)
Yes, it's amazing you're aware of details of this young russian boy fate. Looking forward to read more about his life here in the USA.
As for the ban for Americans adopting russian's orphan you should know the reason russian politicians ground this ban upon.
They said it is very expensive and very long waiting time to adopt american orphans. Much easy and faster for american sadists go to Russia, bring doomed child to american soil, then to kill him/her, take out his/her organs like liver or kidneys and sell them to the rich sick people.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:57 pm (UTC)
Yes, the adoption process in America is very long and expensive. However, foster parents in America are only temporary caretakers. They are not adoptive parents, and it's not so difficult to become a foster parent. Most of the people who house these children are good, with noble intent, but not all. So, if someone wants to abuse but not adopt a child, foster care is a way for them to carry out their evil intent, and get paid by the State in the process. Adoption is something totally different. I will try to tell more about Dmitry's story, because it's very interesting.
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vitsky
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:55 pm (UTC)
About the adoption ban. There is an opinion, that adoption is a very profitable business in which many unscrupulous people are involved on both sides - russian and american. And that many children get into some strange or even pervert families. Several incidents when adopted russian children were killed by their new american parents are known. The aim of this ban is, first of all, to prevent this criminal business and such sad incidents, as I know.
And, by the way, why americans are so interested in adopting russian children (or, mayby, from any other countries)? Is it a lack of such children in America itself?
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:59 pm (UTC)
It's easier and less expensive to adopt a foreign child. This is the main reason, although some parents may have other purposes in adopting a foreign child. This is the only family I know with an adoptive kid from another country.
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seadevil001
Sep. 23rd, 2014 02:58 pm (UTC)
There was big study by Reuters published a year ago:
http://www.reuters.com/investigates/adoption/#article/part1

Also, Russian minister of foreign affairs recently mentioned that his people could not get any help tracing adoptees from US government.
That not to say all kids adopted from Russia are in bad hands or even majority. Problem is that this corner of life here is out of light and full of sad stories.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 03:00 pm (UTC)
Yes, I have read similar articles. It's sad, these tragic cases. But they are not the majority.
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You may find the statistics in USA - oslushnik_olexy - Sep. 25th, 2014 12:13 am (UTC) - Expand
moebiuscat
Sep. 23rd, 2014 03:06 pm (UTC)
I grew up in Russa (well, USSR) and I still don't get this logic. All I can see is Russians manage to completely defy any kind of logic and believe wholeheartedly that the single thing US (and Europe sometimes) wants to do all the time - is to hurt Russia and all their actions are aimed to do just that.

There are people who seriously think that Scotland referendum was initiated by Scots to demonstrate support for Russians in Crimea and Donbass (huh???) and was sabotaged and falsified by USA, just to have a moral victory over Russia. They don't need even a grain of factual evidence for any conspiracy theory to believe in it. If it says that Americans hate Russia - they believe anything.

It's like a religion. It's not based on facts but solely on faith, so it can't be disproved by any facts, don't even try. Most Russians believe that Americans want to hurt Russian children. Most also have heard and seen on TV what abominable hell is in Russian orphanages. But try asking "Isn't ANY family better than that?" Or especially "Aren't two loving gay parents better that hate crime and malnourishment of the orphanage?" - and you will hear a hate speech how Americans what to hurt and pervert Russian children...
mybmd
Sep. 23rd, 2014 03:42 pm (UTC)
I read your comment to my husband (an American) - his jaw literally dropped...
The entire propaganda situation in Russia is just sad.
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girlspell
Sep. 23rd, 2014 03:34 pm (UTC)
I have a niece and a nephew from Russia. My brother adopted him. Lena the girl is just fine. She was adopted at age 2 and is now 16. Gabriel (the boy) is not doing so well. He has major emotional problems is now at a special school. We all want our kids (birth or adopted) to be perfect. Gabriel is not. But his parents still love him. You have to accept what you get. Both kids have biological children still living. Like most orphanages, the parents are still alive, but can or won't take care of them. They stayed in Russia 4 months before leaving with the two children. The parents had three times to respond and take back their kids, but they did not. A major problem (it certainly was during the Soviet days) is alcoholism, (especially the father) That is a major contribution to the kids in orphanages. If there is no one to care for them, they are sent there.

I have a coworker who adopted two girls from China. The first child was abandoned in a box on a street corner. The girl was 6 months old at the time. A passerby found her and took her to an orphanage. She's in college now. Girls, as you know, are not prized in China. The other girl was placed in the orphanage.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 06:31 pm (UTC)
I've just seen something on the news about billboards in China urging people to not throw away or abandon female infants. :(( I don't recognize any behavioral problems in Dmitry, but you can never know what's going on in his mind. I have a close friend who was adopted when he was young. It really tortured him that he never knew anything about his birth parents. In adulthood (around 40 yrs. old), he finally found them with the help of a detective agency. They have a close relationship now. However, this is not always the case. I have no doubt this particular child has a much better life and health care in America. He's with a very loving, well to do Catholic family. They will raise him well and, so far, he's integrated into this big family unit just fine.
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pin_gwin
Sep. 23rd, 2014 03:42 pm (UTC)
An image of anything good coming from US goes against current goals of propaganda in Russia. In my private opinion, adoption may be risky if the adopters never had their own kids. The expectations may be really different from reality of parenting, and things like patience and full acceptance may not be developed well enough to overcome all the difficulties if adopters did not have kids before. Of course, it is not 100% judgement, but I am convinced, that natural parenting is one of tremendous steps in becoming human...

Edited at 2014-09-23 06:07 pm (UTC)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 06:26 pm (UTC)
Well, many people agree with you. They can't understand how you can feel complete without having children, esp. for a woman. But, I feel perfectly happy. Notwithstanding this, I think I'm definitely missing out on a unique human experience, especially for a female (having a fetus grow and develop inside you - it's a miracle!). However, I know the reality of being a good parent and don't wish to dedicate the time or responsibility to achieve this. I treasure my freedom of movement and spontaneity too much. These things die, especially in the early years of child rearing.
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atlantis555
Sep. 23rd, 2014 04:26 pm (UTC)
>Russian politicians really believe someone with such vile intentions will invest the money and time to travel all the way to Russia for a victim
If a travel and money investments are such big barriers for them, why do such things happen?
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 04:28 pm (UTC)
I don't know. It's a good question. I will have to research and locate statistics related to abuse for international adoptions, but I believe this occurs only in a minority of situations. If I write a full report on Dmitry, I'll throw in the statistics.
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a_nimaida
Sep. 23rd, 2014 05:16 pm (UTC)
I've never understood the foundation for this adoption ban?>>>>

Russian MPs do not care for the orphans.
The law on the adoption of Russian children by US citizens was adopted in response to the "Magnitsky list". This is revenge.
http://www.euractiv.com/sections/global-europe/meps-adopt-magnitsky-list-visa-ban-301330
our deputies freaks
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 06:22 pm (UTC)
I know about the Magnitsky Act, and in all likelihood the adoption ban for Americans was just in retaliation. However, no politicians would ever admit this. I was trying to understand what other reasons they could give for the ban. Readers have informed me about high abuse rates for international adoptions. I want to research this further, and will report back on what I find if I write another story about this adorable little boy Dmitry.
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rollson
Sep. 23rd, 2014 06:41 pm (UTC)
is anyone wants to adopt me?
I am clever boy, can speak, walk by myself and post a comments on livejournal!
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 06:43 pm (UTC)
Haha!! :)) You have probably "aged out" for the adoption process. I think you no longer qualify for home placement, at least in the foster care system, after the age of 18.
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notabler
Sep. 23rd, 2014 07:33 pm (UTC)
It's so sad, this stupid ban
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 07:34 pm (UTC)
What is the system in England? Do they still have orphanages, or something similar to the U.S. Foster Care system?
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south_of_broad
Sep. 23rd, 2014 10:00 pm (UTC)
Two families I know very well have adopted children from Russia. One couple already had 3 of their own sons but they just decided that they were ready to give a piece of their hearts to someone out there who had nothing. Next thing you know they were adopting 2 brothers because neither mom nor dad could choose one and separate the boys. Now this military family is raising 5 boys. Imagine that!
Second couple had two daughters , both of the girls were adopted while the parents were working in the Embassy. Both of the girls had some severe health issues .
I admire these people, because I am not sure if I could do that.
The ban on foreign adoption was supposed to be the retaliation , but the only people they really had hurt were their own children. There will be a special place in hell for everyone of them who signed that law.
Yes, there were a few cases of abuse. It is awful and tragic- nobody in their right mind would argue that. The question is why nobody counts how many happy children are out there in our evil America living right now in the real families with the loving parents? That wouldn't make a good story for the agenda( So yes please share the story of this lucky boy!)
peacetraveler22
Sep. 23rd, 2014 11:29 pm (UTC)
It's an amazing story that the brothers were able to stay together! Wonderful! :) These parents are real saints - 5 boys!! Ahh, after one day with my seven year old nephew, I'm completely exhausted. :) You're absolutely right, no one focuses on the good. There's nothing sensationalist about such stories or statistics about all the Russian children happily living in America. And modern media craves provocation and controversy, regardless of the nation, so no one covers it. In a way, it's the same here on LJ. The bloggers who get the most attention are the ones who say outrageous things, or openly criticize others. However, I remember during the Sochi Olympics there was a great report about an American paralympian who was adopted from a Russian orphanage and raised here. Inspiring story of triumph and success.
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andrey_kaminsky
Sep. 24th, 2014 04:53 am (UTC)
Простой и надёжный план
Once i asked a very old man, he's so old that participated in WWII: "How do you feel about the emperor?". At first he did not understand me and i had to explain to him that the emperor is Putin. After he understood my question, he replied, "Oh, it pass away quickly." And it is true. He survived Stalin, Khrushchev, Brezhnev, Chernenko, Andropov, Yeltsin. What is Putin for him? Another piece of shit. Only crafty Gorbachev manage do deceive that old man and be alive :) I will do the same. I will survive and the crappy emperor and the crappy empire.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 24th, 2014 01:41 pm (UTC)
Re: Простой и надёжный план
On the way to work this morning, I heard an argument in favor of not limiting American presidential terms. The advocate said a leader only learns how to do his job after many, many years and experiences. However, I'm grateful we have term limits. Too much power in the hands of one person can only lead to evil. History has taught us this.
real_marsel
Sep. 24th, 2014 08:45 am (UTC)
I believe americans are kind people, enough kind for homeless kids.
peacetraveler22
Sep. 24th, 2014 01:36 pm (UTC)
Me too! :)
qi_tronic
Sep. 24th, 2014 11:31 am (UTC)
You probably know about this story also:

penniesforaprincess. blogspot. ru/

peacetraveler22
Sep. 24th, 2014 01:38 pm (UTC)
No, I did not know this story. :( I'm not sure I could emotionally handle visiting one of these orphanages, but happy to see this girl found a loving home.
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